50+ Dinner table questions to ask your kids for better conversations

Article by Kelly from Happy You, Happy Family - https://happyyouhappyfamily.com

The Best Questions to Ask Your Kid Instead of “How Was Your Day?”

Every evening at the dinner table, my husband and I used to fall into this age-old parenting trap.

“How was your day?” “Fine.”

“What did you learn today?” “Nothing.”

“Who did you play with at recess?” “No one.”

But one-word answers don’t foster a good discussion, and they certainly don’t help us reconnect with our kids after a long day apart from each other.

And yet, it’s absolutely essential that we do reconnect because if we don’t, we pay the price later.

When we’re all feeling connected, the kids jump in to help clean up after dinner – without being asked. They pay attention the first time we ask them to brush their teeth and get pajamas on. When we tuck them into bed, they’re all giggles and smiles.

But when we’re all feeling disconnected? We get less cooperation, more power struggles, grumbles and grimaces at bedtime instead.

What If We Asked Our Kids Better Questions?

I realised I needed to solve the problem of one-word responses so we could have a family conversation that leaves everyone’s connection tank overflowing.

But as busy parents, we’re too exhausted to be creative and come up with questions to ask kids that will get a real, meaningful conversation going. So my first step was to find the best questions for kids that actually work at getting your kids to open up.

You can find lots of questions for children online, but you have to wade through quite a few duds, like:

  • “What’s your favorite number?” or

  • “Why do you think some kids disobey their parents?” or

  • “Frozen or The Incredibles?”

In other words: Boring, loaded, or queued up for another one-word answer that takes the conversation nowhere.

50 Best Questions for Kids…That They’ll Actually Answer

With these questions for kids, not only will you be teaching your child the art of conversation, but you’ll get to peek straight into their heart. What’s important to them, what has them worried, what they are excited about.

And most important of all, you’ll close any distance that’s come between you and your child during the day so you both end the day feeling connected, loved, and happy.

Questions for Kids About Themselves;

  1. What are you excited about right now?

  2. What was your first thought when you woke up today?

  3. What do you want to accomplish by your next birthday?

  4. If you could be famous for one thing, what would it be?

  5. What’s the best thing about your life?